There is a gear, which for a long time is not known to exist, which when shifted into allows life as it is, to be acceptable and fulfilling.

This is how you SHOULD live life:

"In each moment do exactly what you think or feel to do."

Actually, the above is not really a 'prescription' of how to live life but rather a 'description' of how life is always being lived by every single person, or maybe it's more accurate to say, how each person is 'being lived' in each moment.

We are all, always living according to what we think or feel to do next.

It's worth a little investigation I think. And that contemplation will only happen if you think it's worthwhile, or you think you should, or you feel like it.

Peace for now

Hi Roger, I'm trying to remember what Ramesh said about anger : that it is a biological reaction and not an emotion, or something like that?

Reply: He said pure anger is a biological reaction and not a psychological reaction.

However, if the belief in personal doership and attachment are ingrained in the system it's almost certain that when anger arises due to a particular circumstance the additional load of guilt, blame and expectation will inevitably arise with it, and so our experience of anger is rarely if ever of pure anger on its own but rather anger wrapped in suffering, and because the suffering is all pervasive it's then very hard for us to understand from our own experience that the pure anger at the centre is actually just a biological reaction and is not a form of suffering.

This conceptual elaboration if used as a pointer or guide can help bring attention on to the mix of anger and suffering when it arises and maybe the distinction will start to become evident thanks in part to the explanation.

The same can be said for sadness. Pure sadness is a biological reaction and not psychological or suffering. However if the ingrained beliefs are in the system sadness will be accompanied by grief, it then has a bitterness to it. The grief arises because the beliefs assume that what was lost, taken away or not delivered which made us biologically sad are actually essential to our completeness (which they are not).

Biological reactions arise and fall quickly, they can be said to be vertical in time, suffering lingers and could be said to stretch out horizontally in time, sometimes for years and years.

I hope this helps.

Peace for now 

Acknowledge deeply for yourself that the flow of life is always an ebb and flow of pleasure and pain. Someone helps you out: pleasure. Someone let's you down: pain. It is often our actions or the actions of the other which form part of the flow of outcomes which is the flow of pleasure or pain.

Once this has become undeniably registered as the nature of the flow of life, pleasure sometimes and pain at others, then the psychological error which unrealistically wants and expects life to be pleasure, pleasure, pleasure will have begun to dissolve and that has to mean that the psychological suffering which stems from that error is being effected.

The above insight about recognising the nature of the flow of life as inevitably both pleasurable outcomes and painful outcomes is one example of 'seeing things as they are' or 'being with what is'.

The flow of life is always going to be pleasure at sometimes and pain at others. Try as you will, you can't change this indefinitely.

Peace of mind, which is what human happiness turns out to be, is not dependent on outcomes but rather on your attitude to outcomes.

Peace for now

Abiding in I Am is a recognition of our unbroken connection to Source.

In time, the end of suffering will be the norm.

Isn't it completely understandable why people act the way they do?

It doesn't make unpleasant, pleasant or cruel acts or unfortunate outcomes any less tragic but it does make them understandable, and surprisingly maybe that's enough.

Peace for now

Happiness is the absence of unhappiness.

non•duel•ism  n.

1:   the not getting into an attitudinal showdown with the flow of life. 😉

If the movements of the body and brain, both your movements and those of the others, are witnessed as 'happenings' rather than taken as movements we are in complete control of then we will be much closer to a peaceful experience of life.

Life is a happening, thinking is a happening. These things happen.