Attitude of blaming
The uncomfortable feeling of blame is based on seeing the other as the 'doer'.
By all means do your best, but keep in mind that the outcome is out of your hands.
Doership & seeking
God disguised himself as a person, forgot, then started looking for God.
The suffering virus
The basis of all forms of suffering is the principle of 'doership' & 'attachment to outcomes'.
This virus has embedded itself at the root of the psyche and continues to replicate and morph by contaminating each human interaction with it insidious structure, thus tightening its grip on the system.
This virus starts to get contained and undermined when the psychic immune system becomes equipped with powerful viral antibodies which can detect new viral replications and minimise or neutralise them before they take hold, interfering with their powerful reign.
This detection and neutralisation has to start on the outer layers first, meaning that the 'primary forms of suffering' such as blame, judgement, anxiety etc. continue to arise based on the deeply ingrained viral pattern, however any subsequent attitude of doership and attachment towards the 'primary suffering' can be detected and neutralised. The psychic immune system (the empowered working mind) detects and neutralises the viral tendency with a clearer interpretation based on an understanding of the principles of non-doership.
As the antibodies get stronger through application and experience they automatically starts to penetrate further undermining the same viral pattern on deeper and deeper layers of the psyche until the virus is completely eradicated.
Isn't it worth becoming familiar with what mental dynamics 'doership' and 'attachment to outcomes' refer to?
Doing so is the equipping of the psychic immune system with the appropriate antibodies.
Peace for now.
To love everyone is to not hate anyone.
Mechanical chain of reaction
As the first domino is pushed the last has already dropped.
A dog chasing its tail
Be clear on what you're REALLY seeking.
In practice you may be craving circumstance and outcomes, but what you're actually seeking is what you ultimately believe the outcomes will deliver - happiness.
It's closer than you think, in any moment just remember to stop looking out there, and BE.
When competition, rivalry, and suspicion end, love can begin.
The purpose of life
From your own experience you know that when you find yourself at peace, whether sitting quietly or moving about your day, the question 'what's my purpose in life?' seems irrelevant.
In those moments does the question fall away because you have finally achieved so much, contributed such value to society and really made a worthwhile difference; or could it be that in that moment, while doing nothing in particular, but at peace, your life purpose is being fulfilled.
Peace for now.
The most beautiful times
Our very own experience is that the most beautiful and profound periods in life are those where the 'doer' is absent. In these times it's abundantly clear that everything is a 'happening' and unfolds in perfect order and synchronicity. True talent, efficiency, creativity and harmony flows this way. Artists, in particular can attest to this.
And still there is such an insistence to hold tightly to the notion I am in control. It's believed to be beneficial and that a surrender to God's Will is an affront to my person. In fact from our own experience it's completely the opposite.
I guess this is another demonstration that we are not the 'doer' and that everything happens when it is meant to.
Peace for now.
A tightly held expectation IS the false self.
An imagined "me" which is dependent on this or that bursts into existence as part and parcel of expectation. It is contained in the expectation itself, the me doesn't HAVE an expectation, it IS an expectation.
And when life inevitably turns out as it's destined to, often out of line with expectations, this imagination is then forced to morph into suffering.
WE don't suffer, but rather a false "me" bursts into existence as part and parcel of the inevitable suffering thoughts and sensations.
Awareness of this is the beginning of the end of the "me".
Peace for now
Pleasure, pain and suffering
The course of a day is inevitably always going to be pleasure sometimes and pain at others.
Pleasure and pain are not a boost or attack on who you are.
Suffering is the internal response which relates to pleasure and pain as a boost or attack on who you are.
Each time suffering is cut off, the reality that you have not actually been touched by pleasure and pain is revealed.
Pleasure and pain are circumstantial and suffering is attitudinal.
The absence of suffering is peace of mind and it is our birth right.
Peace for now.
And one glorious day the person who repeatedly insists that there is no person, realises it is not entirely true.
What disturbs my peace of mind ?
No need to take my word for it, check it out for yourself. Your unbroken peace of mind is only disturbed by one or several of these forms of suffering:
• Worry & Anxiety
• Expectation & Attachment to Outcomes
When you look at these categories closely you'll find they are all ultimately thought forms and importantly they are 'attitudinal to circumstance' meaning an attitude to what is happening and not what is happening itself - attitudinal not circumstantial.
Good news - the root beliefs at the base of these attitudes is erroneous, they dissolve when seen with clarity. This is how peace of mind is available in an unwavering basis and can be said to be our birth right.
Peace for now.
Destiny in Eden
It was destined for Eve to eat the apple and inevitable that the fall happened.
There is a deeply ingrained big investment in not acknowledging that the natural flow of life will inevitably be sometimes pleasurable and sometimes painful.
But yet, ironically the best returns come when things are objectively seen as they really are.
It follows that maybe to Know thyself there must be clarity around the simple and basic aspects of life.
Life will always be a mix of pleasure and pain, so don't be too surprised when in practice this happens - it's quite normal. And besides pleasure and pain only have the power to effect our peace of mind when it's assumed that who we are is defined by circumstance.
Stop and Be, and you'll find, you are complete right now, regardless of circumstance. Peace for now.
Try being uncomfortable with yourself or another person without first having a conceptual image of yourself, the other and what the situation means about you and them.
In order to test this out you'll need to know that there is a place of Being inside you where you still exist prior to thinking.
Peace for now.
It feels like you are free to agree or disagree with the notion of free will.
How to live
"In each moment do exactly what you think or feel to do."
So often we really dislike being told how we should or shouldn't be.
Automatically there could well be a reaction to the above on that basis.
In fact, it really should be very hard to resist this statement because when you look at it closely.
It extends complete freedom to be as you are - really not dictating anything to you.
Nonetheless, objections may still arise at first, take note of them and contemplate why they come up.
On deeper reflection it can be seen that this statement is not so much telling you what to "do" or "not do" but rather it describes how decisions and choices have always and will continue to happen.
Recognise this dynamic as the basis of how life unfolds and come to see that on some level you are always doing what you want.
Peace for now.
Slow Down!! Prioritise a conscious connection to yourself over outcomes.
Life will reward this change in unexpected ways.
The notion of non-doership does not suggest that you stop functioning, it doesn't suggest that you stop being productive or an active member of society, it doesn't suggest that effort towards an outcome won't happen. Rather it highlights that on investigation it can be seen that was taken as 'my doing' is much more a 'happening' and that outcomes are never in our control.
A deep and thorough recognition of this principle is the basis of surrender and peace of mind/heart in daily living.
Life is a 'happening'. Seeing the non-doershipness will not change WHAT happens in life, it will just allow it to be seen in a different light.
Peace for now
Easter and happiness
The Easter story is about happiness.
Quite obviously not the happiness of circumstance but rather a metaphor that demonstrates the undying aspect of the human being. A self-confirming awareness of this everpresent component of the human is where the happiness through peace of mind & the absence of hate stems from.
Know yourself exclusively as a physical entity and death will be seen as the ultimate assault on what you think yourself as. Pain in the moment is then interpretted as a mini death.
Know yourself also at the non-physical core of your being and death will be known to be 'a going home'.
Peace be with you, Happy Easter.
Attachment to love
It is the deeply ingrained beLIEf that what I am is defined by outcomes which leads to a life of uncomfortableness, resistance and fear.
Judgement vs. discernment
It's worth discerning the difference between 'judgement' and 'discernment'
A field of Being
Even enquiry, contemplation and teachings at a point become mental obstacles that need to be seen as blah blah blah.
If contemplating and thinking about happiness, peace and freedom becomes habitual without the insight which informs "what's being pointed at, peace of mind/heart, is actually a field which lies outside of the spectrum of thought, just STOP and Be", if this insight doesn't happen then we remain trapped in the realm of thought.
This field is what we are at our core, our true nature, what we are right now, but maybe obscured by a thinking obsession.
It's a field of Being that needs to be grounded in, the thinking mind transcended often and regularly - that means just STOP and Be.
It's a field of Being right now, which is obscured by a conceptualisation of what I am or what I want.
Look out in front of you, and the peripheries too, have a soft open gaze, allow all of what's in the field of awareness to just be as it is, notice the body is also an object in that awareness, you are even prior to that, that in which everything arises and falls.
Peace for now
What do you really want?
Put all beliefs and concepts to one side for a moment and ask yourself honestly, keeping it real and most importantly in practical terms - "what am I really looking for?"
All fancy answers aside and remember, keeping it real, you'll find that all you really want if you're honest is to be happy.
If after asking this question you still think what you really want is to save the world, a global awakening, a soul mate, or union with God, then OK, but ask yourself this - "Why do I want this?"
And hopefully you'll concede, not to me but to yourself, that actually you want this because in simple terms you believe it will make you happy.
So what we really want in practical terms is simply to be happy.
Remember this, always keep it as your 'come-back-to-point' when seeking, don't get lost in too much theory.
Ask yourself from time to time, "Is what I'm doing right now, still aligned with my only real goal of happiness?"
To keep our seeking focussed in this way we will need to become much clearer on the subject of happiness - this will come once you have your primary answer firmly in mind.
So start from this point of seeing from your own simple admission that what you really want is to be happy, and only then work upwards. This working upwards means: finding out what happiness really is; is it available? Especially find out what happiness isn't; where happiness is not to be found; what gets in the way; why, and so on and so on.
This however is not step one, the first step is to keep it real and become really sure of what it is you are truly seeking, then focus on that exclusively, become an expert in that which is most important.
Happiness through peace of mind to you.
Commit yourself to truly understanding
Guilt, blame, judgement and pride are all forms of human suffering and are attitudinal. They are an attitude to what happens in the flow of life and not a result of the event itself. The event itself produces only pleasure or pain; the guilt, blame, judgement and pride are additional to, and on top of, the pleasure or pain in the flow of life.
This attitudinal response makes up all human suffering. What we are truly seeking is the end of suffering.
All of these forms of suffering arise from the false belief in personal doership.
Isn't this a great reason to commit yourself to truly understanding, no matter what, what the teachings of non-doership are really pointing at.
Dedicate yourself to truly understand them, at first intellectually, without stopping until you really get the point.
This notion of non-doership has been paramount in the Vedas and Scriptures and almost all wisdom teachings for thousands of years.
The belief in personal doership can't stand to entertain it. But for some the time has come where the heart is open and receptive to what lies beyond the arguments and resistance.
Dedicate yourself today.
Peace for now.
A cosmic joke
Even the belief in personal doership is not your doing.
That's the cosmic joke.
The inseparable two
'Love' and 'Peace of Mind/Heart' are synonymous with each other.
This because peace of mind is the end of the capacity to blame&hate, feel guilt&shame, or be proud&arrogant.
Focussing on improve your capacity to love without first improving your capacity to be at peace is like building a sandcastle on the waters edge.
Love is not something we receive from others, it's that inside, which when free, responds only one way to others.
Peace for now
Life puts the misunderstanding in place...
...and life undoes it.
Three weeks ago a brave, ambitious group of life trekkers embarked on a 21 day live-in retreat with me in the Perth Hills.
Today we all leave different people.
15 participants from around the globe gathered to further what could easily be seen as the most valuable project a person could undertake - a project of better understanding inter-human relationships and the nature of life and Self, with a focus on peace and happiness in daily living.
We had a great time; dived deep, changed our minds, changed them again, made friends and trod where few dare to go.
It was an honour. Namaste