Could it be that unconditional love is more akin to an unwavering attitude of inclusivity that results when everything that exists is known to have its place and is not resisted, judged or hated, this as opposed to a gushing feeling of affection and attraction to the other regardless of who they are or what they do.
Starting at the outer layers
The teaching comes alive & goes to work, like a sniper picking off misunderstanding.
Do your best...
...with no attachment to outcomes.
To the extent that you find; you are able to set an objective, work in a focussed manner, maybe even be passionate, and yet not be attached to the outcome, then consider that wisdom.
Watch the peace that comes from this attitude to life.
You are an experience.
The entire history of time and space has only ever existed as an experience in the present. Any belief otherwise or in favour, is just an object in the present moment experience of life.
The experience of "you" and "I" are intrinsically aspects of the present moment experience and not separate from it.
Generally speaking, life is an experience including the impression that life (an experience) is an objective reality of time and space viewed from a particular perspective by a particular body.
Be present with the current experience.
Peace for now.
Self image & freedom
A self image which is so far removed from what we really are has been set in place, and that's why feelings which are so far removed from what are true, arise.
Life put it in place, and at some point life starts to remove it - this is the process of freedom from the false idea of what we are, and a natural revelation of what we've always been.
It will make us cry and laugh uncontrollably at the joke of it all - finally revealing a peace and love that pervades it all.
The formless and still
The more connected we are to the aspect of ourself which is formless and still, the less psychologically concerned or involved we are with 'how' life will turn out.
Just Stop, and BE
Have you considered the humorous irony in the fact that in moments when we judge another as being selfish, it's generally because they haven't delivered what we want :) ?
Pain in the moment. These things happen!
The dubious gift of the intellect
The human intellect is complex enough that it is capable of conceptualising its own existence.
It is this capacity which leads to so much suffering about 'why' and 'what should and shouldn't be'.
It is also this capacity which allows us to awaken and be in awe and appreciation in a way in which other animals can't.
"the dubious gift of the intellect" ~ Sri Ramesh Balsekar
Seeing things as they are
Expecting life to be pleasure, pleasure, pleasure is like expecting night to never come, you will be continually dissapointed.
The flow of life will always be sometimes pleasure and sometimes pain, that's its nature, so don't be surprised when that's how it turns out.
No need to be pessimistic, but plenty of benefit in being realistic.
The good news is that when a deeper aspect of ourself is Known for what it really is then the presence of pain becomes less significant and am underlying peace with life is there.
Start seeing certain mundane aspects of life as they really are and you might be surprised at how much else gets seen for what it is.
Comparison - great for playing the game 'spot the difference', not so good when playing the game of life.
The only way
When two chemicals come in contact with each other they are destined to react a very, very particular way - ie, exactly as it happens.
How many ways can you react in a particular circumstance?
Expectation reduces life down to something it will never be, and is the father of dissapointment.
Jnana is Bhakti, Bhakti is Jnana
The flowering of Jnana Yoga is Bhakti, and the flowering of Bhakti Yoga is Jnana.
The complete realisation that 'I'm not the doer' (Jnana) reveals that each thought, each movement, each breath has always been and will always be in total service to God (Bhakti).
And on the other hand, the total dedication of all we do as an offering in service to God (Bhakti), reveals that 'I have never been the doer' (Jnana).
Two paths, two methodologies, revealing the one Truth. Two facets, love and wisdom, of the one diamond.
The only truth in manifestation
Life is completely mysterious, nonetheless, that I exist, I Am, is undeniable.
Your discontent is never due to what someone else has done to you.
Who put your beliefs in place?
Are you aware that you have an attitude towards the flow of life !?
The past is less old than it seems, it arises fresh right now.
Liberation is freedom from belief.
The wise ones know nothing.
Silence and Stillness
The attitude of doership and attachment is very very noisy.
The stilling of this attitude towards what happens in the flow of life is silence.
Sri Ramesh Balsekar
SRI RAMESH BALSEKAR
25th May, 1917 - 27th September, 2009
100th Birthday Anniversary
Today is the 100th birhday anniversary of my dear guru Rameshji.
"You can't kill the ego, you don't have an ego, you ARE the ego. It is the sense of personal doership which dies. Before enlightenment there is an ego with the sense of personal doership and after enlightenment there is an ego without the sense of personal doership." ~ Sri Ramesh S. Balsekar
In gratitude and humility I bow at his feet with tears in my eyes.
Take solace and be in awe
If a profound transformational process is unfolding in you, take solace and be in awe that you're not 'doing it', but rather that it's happening.
As this becomes more and more apparent it leads to a great faith, a faith which is much more of connection than unsubstantiated beliefs. A faith that can extend to all corners of life and will transform how we relate to the other.
Peace for now.
I have no doubt that when death is imminent and I get to contemplate this inevitability, there will be a deep satisfaction with life.
A satisfaction not because of things achieved or experienced, but because of a recognition that in each moment I lived life consistently doing what I felt to do, while still keeping in mind those around me, without a pile of psychological shoulds and should-nots constricting my spirit...
Peace for now.
Questioner: Okay, so my question relates to God and blame.
At times I can see that the other is not the 'doer' but then the blame moves from them to God.
And I do believe God is the 'doer' and so the blame makes sense and remains.
Roger: So who or where is this God?
Q: In my imagination, as the Creator of everything and every action and manifesting as what I am aware of.
R: Correct, the point here is to highlight that you have an 'image' of a God that you blame.
R: So here is a concept of God which can be more useful than the one we have traditionally been given or imagine.
Source at Rest at some point explodes into movement BECOMING the entire manifestation from the beginning of time to the end. God as pure Creative Potentiality became or turned into the manifestation. God has become the victim and the perpetrator.
Source (God) didn't cognise or premeditate what it would become. Source as Infinite Creative Potentiality at some point must manifest, otherwise we couldn't say the Source at Rest is Potentiality.
So from this point of view, there is no God separate from the manifestation to blame.
Q: God had no plan? There was no agenda or "conscious" decision making? Pure potentiality erupted and had no direction?
R: Correct. It is infinite creative potentiality. It just becomes a creation. A masterpiece.
Q: Unfolding precisely, predestined exactly how it is
R: Yes. Including the appearance of a separate individual aggrieved by an imaginary God.
Q: That seems to remove any intelligence from God. Or limits it rather.
In my personified version of God, it would know what the falling of the first domino would create.
R: Pure immense creative potentiality can only actualize as what?
Q: 1 outcome.
R: Yes, a creative masterpiece
R: The idea of a thinking God is anthropomorphism.
R: The whole of life from beginning to end is the masterpiece.
And it had to actualize the way it did/does. Your thoughts and actions, this message, all part of that.
Q: I get caught here.
Because the mind starts coming up with images of suffering.
And it seems like there could be another masterpiece.
One less dirty.
R: That's all part of the masterpiece too.
The less dirty one might come next or maybe it was before, or maybe there are many simultaneous. Who cares? We are part of this one.
So when I blame God I'm personifying an idea that doesn't exist?
So when someone cuts me off on the highway, and I recognize that they're not the doer, I move my blame from them to God.
But God as an entity to blame doesn't exist.
Do I have that right?
R: Yes, precisely, God has become you and the one who cuts you off.
Q: Not the creator who hit the first domino and set everything in motion according to a divine plan.
R: You are correct, God isn't the creator who hit the first domino but rather God BECAME the first, second and last domino and the force which tipped the first domino and all forces in between.
Don't underestimate the power that a false 'image' of God or for that matter Yourself can have on seeing things as they are. And while you're at it don't get too attached to the concept I've put forward of God, just use it to see how you probably have an image of God that is not true.
Q: Thank you, Roger!
The love in sadness
Sadness, when it isn't tainted by grief, regret, guilt or blame is quite a precious and amazing feeling.
At the core of the sadness you'll find loads of love and gratitude for the precious gift that was in your life.
What's most important to you?
If an extremely painful outcome were to happen and it's totally unacceptable to you; if you were then [hypothetically] granted one magical wish by God, would you use it to have the circumstance immeasurably improved or use it to have your attitude to circumstance immeasurably improved?
Such an understandable mistake
Putting all your efforts into changing your behaviour, the others' and the world, thinking that's the solution, is like a bird that's flown indoors and is stuck flapping desperately against a window pane trying to make its way into the view beyond.
It seems counter-intuitive to go in a different direction, but that's what's needed.
The happiness we are really after is not to be found in circumstance looking a certain way. Ironically, it is adopting the mentality which says that happiness is dependent on circumstance which keeps us away from the very happiness we are seeking.
See this for yourself and the chance that the desperate flapping against the window stops, gets greater.
Peace for now.
All human suffering is the presence of a specific form of thought. All thoughts are spat out of the brain.
The brain is like a cookie machine designed and configured a certain way in order to produce specific types of cookies. When the cookie machine is reconfigured the cookies which come out will be different.
Wolf in sheep's clothing
Check to see if the motivating factor for your spiritual practice is coming from the expectation of improved outcomes in the flow of life. And if so, take the recognition as an opportunity to assess whether 'attachment to outcomes' has managed to disguise itself into what has been taken by you to be the most noble of pursuits.