These things happen!
Next time someone knocks a glass of wine over or you drop your phone in the toilet, remind yourself "these things happen!", and maybe, even grin.
It may just become your new mantra.
...it's not as important as you think.
Circumstance & attitude
Pain is circumstantial, suffering on the other hand is always only ever attitudinal.
If this distinction is not realised there is little hope of escaping the prison of Samsara. If it is understood deeply then the prison walls dissolve revealing the priceless real estate on which it was built.
Winning and being right
The 'doer' identity is obsessed with winning and being right. The ingrained belief tells us that winning will make "me" more complete and ultimately is my happiness.
Whereas in practice we will feel for ourselves that this mentality feels uncomfortable and is the very opposite of our happiness. It doesn't allow us to relax and let life flow, and is a wrong idea about who we are.
With this in place we are forced to live life relating to the other as a competitor, rival or enemy, we will always feel an underlying suspicion and be fearful.
Our completeness is not to be found in outcomes, it already is when the belief it isn't falls away.
The personal and impersonal "I"
The sense of 'I am Roger' which permeates the daily experience is there not because of the existence of a personal 'I' belonging to Roger but rather much more because of an impersonal 'I' of Source which identifies to a particular vehicle, ie, the body known as Roger and then manifests as the sense 'I am Roger'.
It is this phenomenon which explains why we've all experienced dreams whereby the main character was different to the character we ordinarily know ourself as (Roger in this case) and yet there is a direct undeniable Knowing that "you" were that character.
This happens because the 'I-ness' which we are so familiar with in the waking state is not so much the I-ness of Roger but rather the impersonal I-ness of Source which illuminates all individuals. And hence that I-ness which we are so intimately familiar with is the same I-ness which illuminates the character in the night dream (even when the character is different to that which we ordinaly know ourselves as) and that's why the dream experience feels intimately familiar to us and we say "it's strange but somehow I knew that I was that person (which is not Roger) in the dream".
News and advertising
Remove one of the major power sources that feeds and sustains our false self image by simply unplugging from news and advertising.
Can you manage that? or is the hypnosis too great?
Could it be that unconditional love is more akin to an unwavering attitude of inclusivity that results when everything that exists is known to have its place and is not resisted, judged or hated, this as opposed to a gushing feeling of affection and attraction to the other regardless of who they are or what they do.
Starting at the outer layers
The teaching comes alive & goes to work, like a sniper picking off misunderstanding.
Do your best...
...with no attachment to outcomes.
To the extent that you find; you are able to set an objective, work in a focussed manner, maybe even be passionate, and yet not be attached to the outcome, then consider that wisdom.
Watch the peace that comes from this attitude to life.
You are an experience.
The entire history of time and space has only ever existed as an experience in the present. Any belief otherwise or in favour, is just an object in the present moment experience of life.
The experience of "you" and "I" are intrinsically aspects of the present moment experience and not separate from it.
Generally speaking, life is an experience including the impression that life (an experience) is an objective reality of time and space viewed from a particular perspective by a particular body.
Be present with the current experience.
Peace for now.
Self image & freedom
A self image which is so far removed from what we really are has been set in place, and that's why feelings which are so far removed from what are true, arise.
Life put it in place, and at some point life starts to remove it - this is the process of freedom from the false idea of what we are, and a natural revelation of what we've always been.
It will make us cry and laugh uncontrollably at the joke of it all - finally revealing a peace and love that pervades it all.
The formless and still
The more connected we are to the aspect of ourself which is formless and still, the less psychologically concerned or involved we are with 'how' life will turn out.
Just Stop, and BE
Have you considered the humorous irony in the fact that in moments when we judge another as being selfish, it's generally because they haven't delivered what we want :) ?
Pain in the moment. These things happen!
The dubious gift of the intellect
The human intellect is complex enough that it is capable of conceptualising its own existence.
It is this capacity which leads to so much suffering about 'why' and 'what should and shouldn't be'.
It is also this capacity which allows us to awaken and be in awe and appreciation in a way in which other animals can't.
"the dubious gift of the intellect" ~ Sri Ramesh Balsekar
Seeing things as they are
Expecting life to be pleasure, pleasure, pleasure is like expecting night to never come, you will be continually dissapointed.
The flow of life will always be sometimes pleasure and sometimes pain, that's its nature, so don't be surprised when that's how it turns out.
No need to be pessimistic, but plenty of benefit in being realistic.
The good news is that when a deeper aspect of ourself is Known for what it really is then the presence of pain becomes less significant and am underlying peace with life is there.
Start seeing certain mundane aspects of life as they really are and you might be surprised at how much else gets seen for what it is.
Comparison - great for playing the game 'spot the difference', not so good when playing the game of life.
The only way
When two chemicals come in contact with each other they are destined to react a very, very particular way - ie, exactly as it happens.
How many ways can you react in a particular circumstance?
Expectation reduces life down to something it will never be, and is the father of dissapointment.
Jnana is Bhakti, Bhakti is Jnana
The flowering of Jnana Yoga is Bhakti, and the flowering of Bhakti Yoga is Jnana.
The complete realisation that 'I'm not the doer' (Jnana) reveals that each thought, each movement, each breath has always been and will always be in total service to God (Bhakti).
And on the other hand, the total dedication of all we do as an offering in service to God (Bhakti), reveals that 'I have never been the doer' (Jnana).
Two paths, two methodologies, revealing the one Truth. Two facets, love and wisdom, of the one diamond.
The only truth in manifestation
Life is completely mysterious, nonetheless, that I exist, I Am, is undeniable.
Your discontent is never due to what someone else has done to you.
Who put your beliefs in place?
Are you aware that you have an attitude towards the flow of life !?
The past is less old than it seems, it arises fresh right now.
Liberation is freedom from belief.
The wise ones know nothing.
Silence and Stillness
The attitude of doership and attachment is very very noisy.
The stilling of this attitude towards what happens in the flow of life is silence.
Sri Ramesh Balsekar
SRI RAMESH BALSEKAR
25th May, 1917 - 27th September, 2009
100th Birthday Anniversary
Today is the 100th birhday anniversary of my dear guru Rameshji.
"You can't kill the ego, you don't have an ego, you ARE the ego. It is the sense of personal doership which dies. Before enlightenment there is an ego with the sense of personal doership and after enlightenment there is an ego without the sense of personal doership." ~ Sri Ramesh S. Balsekar
In gratitude and humility I bow at his feet with tears in my eyes.
Take solace and be in awe
If a profound transformational process is unfolding in you, take solace and be in awe that you're not 'doing it', but rather that it's happening.
As this becomes more and more apparent it leads to a great faith, a faith which is much more of connection than unsubstantiated beliefs. A faith that can extend to all corners of life and will transform how we relate to the other.
Peace for now.
I have no doubt that when death is imminent and I get to contemplate this inevitability, there will be a deep satisfaction with life.
A satisfaction not because of things achieved or experienced, but because of a recognition that in each moment I lived life consistently doing what I felt to do, while still keeping in mind those around me, without a pile of psychological shoulds and should-nots constricting my spirit...
Peace for now.