Why we are disturbed by unfavoured outcomes
Why is it that we get so disturbed when outcomes are not as we would like?
It's really quite simple, it's because (and this really is quite an oddity given we have so much experience of life), by enlarge we still haven't realised that life is a force unto its own (which we are intrinsically part of) and sometimes life delivers what we want, and sometimes it doesn't - that's it.
Once this has become crystal clear to us then we stop expecting life to be different, it just doesn't surprise us when things turn out the way they do.
We stop resisting what happens in each moment.
And with this attitude of acceptance and understanding we still have the intelligence and freedom to do whatever we can in each given moment to improve a situation, with the knowing that the outcome is not in our control.
The other factor that forces us to get so disturbed is that humanity tends to be out of touch with the part of themselves which is never affected by outcomes.
The core of the human is unaffected by what happens in the flow of life and it's being familiar with that aspect of ourself which delivers unwavering peace and contentment in daily living.
Peace for now
The Spirit of Christmas
Rest in the Christmas Spirit - the undeniable, pure existence, at the core of your humanness.
I wish you all the unwavering peace that stems from there.
Peace and loveRoger
Life only ever turns out one way.
A thought or feeling, an action for that matter, are all simply products of a biological organism reacting to stimuli. This sounds very scientific and mechanical doesn't it? Not very human, right?
Nonetheless, the fact is, that for as long as we don't see things with clarity we will continue to experience life with an internal discomfort.
The vast majority of us don't see what happens in life as an impersonal happening, but rather are convinced that there is a 'doer' that is responsible for everything that happens through the body and mind.
If looked at closely it becomes evident that this supposed entity, 'this fictitious doer', simply doesn't exist. All there really is, is a complex set of automatic biological and psychological reactions which happen, and happen without the need of a 'controller' to produce them.
From this recognition, witnessing the wonder of life happen (including all the functions of the body) is so much more of a likelihood.
This is the game changer. This is the waking up to the fact that the belief that I am the 'doer' is a complete fiction. There is great liberation in this imagined entity collapsing.
This imagined entity is in itself just a thought.
Peace for now.
We are destined to live happily
Evolution is a process of growth and adaptation to an environment in order to optimise existence in that environment.
So far humanity has evolved sufficiently such that we can prosper very competently in life.
Unwavering happiness in daily living is just a continuation of this evolutionary process. In due course we will not only be able to prosper, but to be happy as well.
Happiness is very much part of evolution, it is the human evolving in a way that it no longer functions a particular way because it makes life better.
It takes experience for evolving to happen. To date, the intelligence of life has been focused on optimising survival, and the natural progression after survival is ensured is towards happiness.
Remember, evolution is a very gradual process. For so long the focus has been on gaining and attaining to survive, and a shift on an instinctual level to temper this focus can take time.
For at least several thousands of years some humans have been at the front of this evolution curve and have had enough experience to know that life is vastly improved when certain thinking patterns are dropped. These people have felt compelled to share this 'wisdom' with as many others as possible. This movement is part of the impersonal and very intelligent evolutionary process.
Once an individual starts experiencing a shift from suffering to peace, and the difference is recognised to be directly linked to thinking patterns (ie, suffering is seen to be attitudinal) then a change in attitude happens, the person evolves.
Happiness is the end of suffering coupled with awareness of, or a connection with, the inner. This connection was foregone because of our obsession with the outer. Suffering is based on a particular way of relating to life and once we start experiencing it with less suffering (thanks to hints that life starts delivering) and it becomes experientially known to be a far more optimal way of living; then it's inevitable that the change continues and an adaptation, evolution, happens.
Spiritual teachings are just a methodology to bring about change. We will continue to evolve past the teachings themselves until eventually we just find ourselves living happily. In other words, we find ourselves no longer producing certain thought patterns and feelings.
A teaching will do what it needs to do and will say what it needs to say in order to affect change. Always be ready to move on and let go of what you believe to be true.
It turns out that what we are as humans is very special at our core. It turns out that once certain thought patterns fall away, the sole, undeniable fact that I Am, I exist now, is enough to be happy. Our Being is self contenting.
Peace for now
Empathy and compassion
Empathy and compassion is much less about acts of kindness and much more about an attitude (which you could call kind to everyone) which stems from a clarity that sees that whichever of the vast range of human behaviours or emotions arise in each of us at any time is because that's the way each of us is built to function, it really isn't personal.
Remember, the body grows after the union of the egg and sperm, it grows like a plant grows, it's just much more complex. At some point the organs have grown sufficiently to start working, the heart grows and starts beating, and the brain grows and starts thinking and feeling, and so on. We have grown into this moment.
If I can understand why the other is cruel, why the other suffers, why the other is angry, or sad, happy or glad, excited or mad, if I can understand why the other forgot, or was kind, attracted to me or attracted to another, then I will also understand why it is I act and feel the way I do.
As long as it is all seen as the very complex movement of humanity, not personal but a happening, then there will automatically be empathy and compassion.
Empathy and compassion is the absence of judgement, blame and shame.
From that ground love and kindness can grow.
Earnestness and devotion
Today marked the end of a three week adventure that these twelve inspiring people embarked on with earnestness and devotion.
And although it's the end of a chapter it's really just the beginning of living life filled with more space and peace.
We were bound not to fail, life was on our side, we were armed with trust and a willingness to see what happens and Grace didn't fail to fill the space.
I sincerely thank my new friends for showing up with such commitment and courage, with openness and vulnerability.
I see an intrepid group of changed people who are undoubtedly much closer to what is truly sought.
Let yourself be lived from an instruction beyond your thinking mind and follow your heart, life is a divine happening - that was the message - life can flow smoothly with you doing in each moment exactly what you feel to do, and all along with the deep conviction that it's not your doing.
If you feel a 'yes' inside to join me for the next retreat in April - don't ignore it.
We Satsanged together, early morning meditated, we cooked and ate together, we walked in nature, laughed and cried, danced together, made new friends and touched a part of ourselves that has been covered up for too long, covered up by our habitual outward looking.
And all along, dear Ramesh sat in with us, what a blessing.I'm impressed no end at how magically this journey of life unfolds.
Peace for now.
The bottomless well of pure infinite potentiality
Life is taking us on a journey where eventually life itself is known from the cusp of where pure infinite potentiality actualises into the ever-changing expression of that potentiality.
From this vantage point there is never a lack of appreciation of Source or God.
A life lived with the resulting effortless surrender to the undefinable yet directly touchable God force which is at the core of our very own existence transforms into a life overflowing with mystery, wonder, love and peace, seen to be brimming full with divinity.
Devoid of this appreciation, life is bound to feel like a struggle, unfullfilling and fearful, we feel disconnected and lonely.
Meditate and dive into the depths of your humanness and at the core you'll bump into the still bottomless well of pure potentiality.
You'll come to know the primordial expression of this well of potential as the undeniable sense that I Am, I exist now, and known from the depth of our Being this existence now is more than enough.
Peace for now.
STOP and be still
When we push past all of the explanations, our happiness in life comes with the grounded recognition and self confirming appreciation of our very own core.
STOP, and be still.
Peace for now.
The person who believes the person doesn't exist
You will laugh loudly one day at all the things you have believed, including ironically the content of wisdom teaching pointers that are 'concepts' and not 'truth', concepts designed to undo beliefs . You'll laugh at how after believing certain concepts, states of consciousness changed, life was experienced from a different perspective and you interpreted what was newly revealed to be something you were told it was, like for example, the Absolute, or proof that there is no person or maybe that you are not the body, that you are Awareness or I Am.
Humans are prone to believe.
See the relative nature of life experience and thought, and then beliefs which take things absolutely will crumble.
Peace for now.
My wisdom went out the window
From a young age life shapes us in such a way that we are compelled to take life personally.
Then at some point, if we are lucky, we find ourselves conveyor belted through a process that demonstrates that it's our attitude which is most crucial to a happy life and we see that it's possible for our conditioned and ingrained 'doership & attachment' attitude to start dissolving as the dynamics of life are seen more clearly.
As this dissolving progresses we find ourselves standing in a place where we are still fully participatory in life, still unable to magically avoid the pain of outcomes or control pleasure at will, and yet find that attitudinally we don't take these outcomes (life) personally anymore.
Nevertheless, even after the impersonal dynamics of life have become clearly seen, often in such a way that it feels like "it's done!", don't be surprised that you find yourself from time to time catapulted back to a perspective where you get completely lost in suffering - your wisdom has effectively gone out the window.
In other words, don't be surprised that from time to time, you find yourself faced with the slightest of unpleasant results and you can't help but take them personally - your understanding, unexplainably it seems, has gone out the window.
Take solace in knowing that this is completely normal and understandable. Simply put, this phenomena is the emerging of deeply ingrained still unresolved, condensed energies from the past - essentially beliefs of doership and attachment to pleasure - emerging to the surface.
Don't worry the clarity is still there, it's just that a deeper layer of old misunderstanding is now able to surface to the conscious level to be atoned and released.
This happens because a previously existing load of misunderstanding that was on top which was effectively keeping this load suppressed, has been seen through and now its the turn of this batch of energy to be exposed and atoned. In effect you could look at it as though the clarity is drilling its way deeper into the system and has broken through the chains and trapdoors that were keeping this load packed in the basement. This basement is now just being emptied out, a messy job sometimes but worth doing - you need the space.
Don't worry, even though the load can seem never ending it's not, as the intellectual understanding becomes more and more complete and robust it sinks deeper and deeper uprooting any remaining loads of guilt and shame, hatred and blame, until one day the understanding becomes 'total'.
'Total' doesn't really mean that you now have a new load of useful knowledge, what it really means is the absence of misunderstanding, no more historic load of misunderstanding remaining to surface, and our natural attitude of the heart gets to function without being covered over.
Peace for now.
Happiness is peace of mind
Circumstance in life is only ever either pleasurable or painful.
Your happiness or unhappiness in life is dependent on your attitude to circumstance and not the circumstance itself.
What good news.
No hot water!!
Your happiness is never to be found in the flow of life. The flow of life is only ever outcomes, either pleasurable or painful.
If you're in a shower and suddenly the hot water stops working, that's pain in the moment (relative to your biological preference for hot water).
If a friend lets you down, that is pain in the moment. And if a friend excels that's pleasure in the moment, either pleasurable or painful relative to your biological preferences.
Your happiness is never to be found in pleasure or pain. It is the deeply ingrained false belief that it is - that we are defined by outcomes - which flowers into suffering so often during the day when the flow of life does what it does - deliver outcomes - sometimes pleasurable, sometimes painful.
Even in the face of pleasure and pain, I Am, I exist.
Peace for now
I always function differently...
... but I can't function differently.
However anyone functions in life - thought or thinking be it positive or negative, an action or deed be it helpful or a hinderance, words spoken or a conversation be they kind or unkind, reactions or responses wise or ignorant, a feeling or emotion, suffering or peace of mind, curled up in a ball unable to face the world, or full of excitement and enthusiasm - anything at all that happens through the body in any moment is a result of only two factors and the circumstance the person finds themself in.
These two factors:
1) the body's genetic makeup; and
2) the up-to-date conditioning piled on by the flow of life and accumulated from at least the point of conception.
If there is no third factor, is it realistic to expect anyone, including ourselves, to be able to function differently in any moment to the way they do?
Even the thoughts that sometimes arise just before we're about to do something that may say something like "actually, you know better than this, don't do that, it will only make things worse", even this thought which might actually precede us acting differently to the initial impulse, even that thought which we are sure is our "doing" is a result of these two factors.
This means that, however the functioning of the body unfolds, it's the only way it could given the circumstance and the person's makeup in that moment (based on the 2 factors).
This is not pointed out for philosophical entertainment or debate, but rather because it encourages and allows for a very practical contemplation. We're not debating whether other life forms exist, but rather pointing at a very simple and observable dynamic in daily life.
And why is this point that the human is forced to act exactly the way they do, important?
Because so much of our human suffering is based on the non-recognition of this fact. So much of life is spent regretting and blaming or feeling proud and frankly that is an uncomfortable way to experience life. Even this functioing can't be different, until it's different. This suffering is also based on our genes and up-to-date conditioning and the circumstance we find ourselves in.
This message is just new conditioning from the flow of life. It may or may not alter someone's up-to-date conditioning, and how it does or doesn't effect the up-to-date conditioning is not in anyone's control.
If the root is uprooted the weed dies.
Peace for now.
Condition of the unconditioned
The human being is completely and utterly conditioned by life....to think that they are completely and utterly unconditioned by life.
An instrument programmed...
... to think it's not an instrument.
If thought continues to include the false notion that thought is a volitional function of an independent separate person in control of when and what is thought, then the lynch pin of suffering (belief in personal doership) remains in place.
Thinking is a byproduct of the body&brain's genes and up-to-date conditioning interacting with the circumstance it finds itself in, none of these factors have ever been in it's control.
Thinking happens, there isn't a volitional 'thinker'.
The deeply ingrained belief in personal doership keeps this impersonal dynamic from being appreciated because whenever anything happens through the body/brain (including thinking) it's automatically assumed by thought to be the result of "me the doer".
This thought of 'being the doer' is just an inaccurate assessment of what's happening produced by a programmed instrument.
There never has been, and never will be, a "doer", no one has ever "done" anything. Everything is a happening according to Source or God.
Blame, guilt, pride, worry and expectation all ride on the back of this unsubstantiated belief in personal doership. This is why suffering is sometimes referred to as unreal and why it can end. It's an error resting on an error, which is meant to be there until as destined the instrument is reconditioned to no longer create the error.
Peace for now.
How can we possibly lose ourself?
A very strange thing happens in life: the very essence of who we are fades into non-recognition.
Understandably so when this happens, the experience of life starts to feel uncomfortable, and as the disconnection grows the uncomfortableness intensifies.
The returning of attention onto this essential core of our existence is a game changer.
This shift in attention is a shift from head to heart, a shift from experiencing everything through a filter of belief, judgement and thought to simply finding that there is another podium to stand at.
Drop out of the obsessive thinking about how things should or shouldn't be, about yourself and the other, and in that moment you'll find you ARE, untouched by all that's happened, and you'll smile. That's your reconnection to Source.
Peace for now.
Why peace and contentment is for all of us
On the physical level all humans share commonalities, for example we all, without fail, have a heart.
All humans also WITHOUT FAIL, in fact it is our very core, include another most precious quality. It is this quality which is our life line, it is the source of relaxation, unwavering contentment and peace here in life.
Here's the twist in the plot, this precious quality is by default covered up by a load of suppressed guilt and blame from the past, and expectation in the future, and because of this load life is not experienced as contenting and peaceful.
Spiritual teachings in different ways are there to release this for the purpose of peace of mind in daily living.
When a focus on spirituality comes into one's life this is an intensifying of this ongoing process of realising this core of our being through the process of undermining what's in the way.
This is completely available for all of us, it is simply a matter of the right strokes being delivered by life, and this is already happening. So even if in this moment you're feeling lost allow a ray of gratitude to come in for this fact, and for those who in this moment are clear that this is what's happening then bathe in the grace and gratitude.
This core is covered up by a load of guilt and blame from the past, and a continued similar attitude to life in the present.
You are not the doer, the other is not the doer and your happiness isn't dependent on outcomes in the flow of life. It is the deep seeing of this which uproots the load of past and future which then naturally and effortlessly allows a resting in the core of who we are to happen.
Peace for now.
A little awakening
Follow these suggestions step by step if you feel inclined.
(or listen to a 4 minute recorded version at the bottom or here)
Sit quietly and still, become aware of the environment you're in. Allow your center of consciousness to drift down out of the head into the chest as if dragged down by gravity (this is its home).
Soften and open your gaze, look at the vista infront of you with this soft open gaze, notice your periferal vision, left and right, above and below, and notice how the entire visual experience arises within what you could call the field of vision. Stay here for half a minute or so allowing everything to be as it is.
Notice that the visual experience is there regardless of whether you label it or not, so for a while, no need to label. This is much more an exercise about becoming aware of (bringing attention to) the actual functioning of sight as a sense, the seeing itself.
For a minute or so bring attention to this seeing function free of labelling and just see the entire vista all at once as a single visual experience. Keep the head still but allow the the eyes to move around very slowly so that attention doesn't get fixated on any one spot, this can help thinking to remain absent. All the while noticing the full vista as a single visual experience, a bit like a painting.
Remember this is about becoming aware of the seeing itself independent of the functioning of thought. Just bring attention to the act or sense of sight itself.
Then, from this position of being aware of seeing play with this notion: even though everything points to the fact that it is the eyes that are doing the seeing, they aren't. The seeing is happening from outside of the body, not through the eyes, but from some place behind your head.
This is not something to think about, this is something to be experienced, here it is again:
Once attention is on the act or sense of seeing itself, play with this notion: even though everything points to the fact that it is the eyes that are doing the seeing, they aren't. The seeing is happening from outside the body, not through the eyes, but from some place behind the head.
What is seen in the visual experience is all contained within that which sees it, a field of awareness you could say. Nothing is outside it, the body is a visual object within the overall visual experience.
The body is not the Subject as often felt, it is not what is aware, it is what's 'awared'. That which is aware, which is experience itself, pervades the entire space and all the visual objects. Nothing is outside of the experience.
Don't think about this, be the act of seeing, be Awareness, the body is an object 'awared' not the Subject.
'Tis this which makes life meaningful
Become often, consciously aware and amazed that you are here now, in life, that you exist.
Not aware that you exist as this or that, succeeding or failing, happy or suffering, but rather stop and BE that innate and undeniable feeling or sense 'I Am', 'I exist', prior to all those labels.
This is what gives life meaning.
Peace for now
Why it's important to investigate...
... the question of personal doership
The root from which so many forms of suffering flower is the belief in personal doership.
There's guilt and shame, blame and hatred, pride and arrogance, worry and expectation.
See this for yourself based on your own investigation, that's a great start.
The reason this is highlighted, is because, whether it's realised or not, the only state which truly satisfies on an ongoing basis is the state of being human free of psychological suffering - this is happiness through peace of mind.
If each person really is an 'independent doer' then the suffering which arises in life would be accurate and we would have to conclude that suffering is not something that can realistically end. On this basis It would be wise to feel guilty for my actions which delivered bad outcomes, wise and realistic to feel blame towards others who hurt me, and wise to feel pride for my actions which are successful.
On the other hand, If the interpretation of humans as 'doers' is an error, then the suffering that stems from that interpretation must be an error too.
Good news in my book, maybe there is hope.
Peace for now
Really seeing what is being pointed at, beyond belief
The pointers I put forward work in a very specific way, and if your intellect is relating to them in the wrong way then the understanding may not sink in deeply. I'm going to throw in an affirmation I heard recently to demonstrate my point.
"every day, in every way, I'm getting better and better"
There is a place for these sorts of affirmations, it sounds very nice on the surface and can be useful in certain contexts, and I'm sure we've all from time to time run with something like this for a while. However if you apply just a bit of critical thinking to this statement you can see that it is not entirely accurate.
I use the above example to highlight that sometimes our relationship to concepts is to believe and take them on without really processing what is being delivered. As humans, because of the way we develop, starting as a baby, then infancy and so on at first relying heavily on parents, this believing tendency can become a default, and as we grow older sometimes it doesn't fall away and can mothball certain faculties of the intellect without us even realising it.
Some people actually believe that there is a God out there somewhere, who has a son, who sent his son down from heaven to earth, specifically to die for the sins of mortals.
I'm using these examples, not to ridicule or judge but rather to highlight how easily beliefs can get formed when concepts are presented and a certain faculty of intellect is not applied. The sad part is not only that we tend to become limited by beliefs until they are seen as such, but more-so this movement of simply believing prevents an actual experiential seeing of various dynamics which are being described.
If a concept I share is only believed, even if it is accurate, it will have limited value.
So, when relating to this teaching, please take the concepts and really understand what they are saying. Then, once there is a clear intellectual grasp of what is shared there is a chance to really SEE the dynamics for yourself in your own daily life.
This requires a honed intellect that will realise that these concepts are descriptions of daily living and are asking you to see the dynamics described and NOT to believe. This post is aimed at honing the intellect to recognise this difference.
After having understood a concept intellectually then every time you confirm its accuracy for yourself in your own life the understanding goes deeper.
Take for example this concept: "You are not the 'doer', the other is not the doer, everyone functions in each moment based on an impulse which arises which on investigation is seen to be an impulse we didn't create, it's a happening, and these happening drive us forward, life is a happening and not our doing". And this concept: "the inaccurate attitude of 'doership' is highlighted because guilt, blame and pride rest on it, and given we only live a satisfied life when these forms of suffering end then it's critical to see that 'personal doership' is not an accurate interpretation of the what moves us in life".
If the intellect really digests these concepts, meaning it has an intellectual understanding, then this dynamic may be seen for yourself, ticked off as accurate based on your own experience, and that's how the understanding goes deeper and deeper.
Ramesh used to say "One day, after having really looked at what the concepts are pointing at, seen them to be accurate based on your own investigation in daily living, it will dawn on you "I simply cannot be the 'doer', and my happiness can't possibly be found in the flow of life."
Peace for now
Decisions, no worries
If you experience uncomfortableness around decision making, notice that it's not actually because a decision is not forthcoming but rather because there's a persisting attitude which assumes a decision needs to be made by "me", yesterday, or at least now.
You don't need to worry about making decisions in life.
A decision gets made only when life infuses a strong enough feeling, thought or impulse into the moment, that infusion is what motivates a decision, it is the decision.
Whether we appreciate this or not, the various impulses are not created by "me", a "doer", any more than you create the feeling of hunger which drives your decision to eat. Hunger arises when it arises, it's a happening, and any mental struggle against hunger arising or not arising is independent to the hunger.
If in a particular moment life doesn't include a clear impulse one way or another regarding a set of options you're considering, then appreciate that it's destiny for in that moment for you to make no decision, just like we could say it's destiny (not your doing) that hunger arises or not at a certain time, it's meant to be that way. You could even look at it as a decision to make no decision when there is no clear impulse.
It's not your job to struggle for the moment to look a particular way, you can relax, a decision, when it's time, will come even if you're not trying to make one. The 'trying/forcing' a decision would just be conditioning which doesn't quite understand this point.
Relax, you're being lived - always.
Peace for now.
You're not looking for awakening,...
...or Self, or the Absolute, not even Truth.
Be clear on what it is you are seeking from your own enquiry and experience and not based on a belief you've picked up along the way. With enough pointers and investigation you'll see that you're actually just looking for the end of suffering.
You're not looking for awakening, Self, the Absolute, not even some magical 'Truth' or any of the revealing insights, you're actually, when you keep it real, just looking for peace of mind in daily living which is the end of suffering.
Awakening and the other revelations are quite simply useful contributors which assist the undermining of the beliefs on which suffering stand. And for some, life dissolves the beliefs without the need for certain experience, for others, states and experiences are a large part of the methodology.
As each phase, which takes a particular form, falls away and transitions into the next phase it may starts to become clear that it's not about any particular phase, state or experience, it's not about witnessing, or Being either, all these pronounced states subside and eventually you find yourself living life as a person in a world, simple as that, not living in a dream or being formless awareness, just a person in a world with other people but simply unable to produce certain forms of thought and feelings which used to be second nature. Now they no longer arise.
The emphasis on Consciousness, the Absolute, non-doership, illusion and reality, nothingness and everything and so on, all have their place, these contemplations and insights contribute what needs to be contributed in order to undermine certain core false beliefs. But remember, as you engage in these contemplations, you're just looking for unbroken peace of mind in daily living. That's the only time seeking stops completely.
I can't emphasise this enough, realise this and that is clarity, then all else falls into place.
Peace for now.
What are you doing with your life?
Once the spiritual quest becomes the most important thing for you, a quest which doesn't seem of much value to the majority of the population who are off achieving much more important things ;), you're bound to doubt yourself and feel lost from time to time.
When those around you simply don't understand what you're doing and continue to urge you to get on with what's important for them, the doubt may well intensify, you really do start to question whether what you're doing is valid and wonder if it's time to get on with the important things everyone else is doing.
Well, for what it's worth, even though this path can be rocky at times, maybe lonely because you can no longer relate to those around you, or you feel like you've regressed and are getting nowhere, I can assure you that as the confusion is replaced with clarity, it's absolutely obvious that this quest to live life differently is the most valuable movement you could possibly dedicate your life to. In times when grace shines through you know this for yourself, make a point of remembering this.
And don't worry, a natural integration back into life and with the people around you will happen in good time. For now this is life's way of giving you space to embark on this rich, profound journey.
And if anyone asks you what you're doing, you can reply:
"I've embarked on an amazing research project about the nature of life and inter-human relationships, and I just keep getting blown away by what's revealed. Pretty cool, huh?"
Peace for now.
Heaven and hell are attitudes to life on earth.
These attitudes are not something that the person imposes over life as their 'doing' but rather they find themselves with these attitudes imposed by life itself. And furthermore any change in attitude from the less peaceful to more peaceful happens not because of worthiness or merit. Life is a happening.
The attitude which leads to suffering (hell) is the attitude of 'doership' and 'attachment to outcomes'.
The attitude of peace (heaven) is the natural attitude of the heart which flowers naturally when the psychological attitudes of 'doership' and 'attachment to outcomes' dissolve.
The power of forgiveness
Tragic, inconsiderate and cruel events happen, that's plain and simple.
When there is resentment or hatred towards another for the part they played in past events, experientially we may come to see that it is forgiveness that will lead to our freedom from this suffering.
Unfortunately however, our idea of what forgiveness looks like actually does the opposite, it affirms the base error at the root of the suffering and keeps the suffering in place.
Generally it's assumed that forgiveness is the movement where I, as 'a separate doer', need to find it in me to pardon the other, whom I see as 'a separate doer', for what they did of their own volition which caused pain and was therefore an attack on me.
It turns out that true forgiveness is the realisation that there is nothing to forgive, it was all a 'happening', not my doing or the other's doing.
And furthermore, the recognition that the result of the situation was at worst pain, and that what I am at my core remains untouched by pleasure or pain.
It is always one's attitude to circumstance that binds us to it, or not.
The freedom of being lived
Once it's seen it's so obvious, we are all being-lived.
Whatever happens through us in each moment is a result of a bunch of impulses, thoughts, urges and feelings which arises and drive us to behave a certain way and move us in a particular direction. It's simply a matter of realising that I don't create these stimuli, they happen, I'm being-lived.
So much psychological thinking falls away with the total realisation of this, such a big relief. I'm off duty.
And yet, when this realisation settles in, it doesn't turn us into irresponsible members of society, make us inefficient, selfish or lacking sensitivity - quite the opposite in fact.
We will still have our good points and our bad points, however In my experience a natural intelligence starts to function in the absence of all that psychological thinking, and life flows, what a relief.
All there is, is Consciousness
There is one Source, all stems from Source, the creations of Source are never separate from Source.
Everything arises in Consciousness, is made of Consciousness and recognised by Consciousness.
All there is, is Consciousness.
How does witnessing happen?
As life is seen as a 'happening', thinking seen as a 'happening', emotions and feelings a 'happening', then silent witnessing sets in as a natural byproduct.